Hi. Can you get some help ? Your going through a really rough time and it's too much for you and S8 at the moment
Life is tough and from your posts it seems like your W is not thinking straight. You can't talk to her when she like this. Take S8 and do something that will take you both away from the sitch , even for a little while.
Pleaser ake care of S8 and reassure him He's a baby and needs to be looked after