Co dependency H Affairs O my Must DETATCH

[Sotto]

Hi 4M, his responsibility for picking up and looking after his daughter is his alone. I don't think there should be any need for you to get hold of people to go and wake him up. Maybe next time this happens, you can give Mom of D4 the number and she can call him direct. It sounds as though you are making it your problem and it isn't IMHO.

If he wants to stay up until all hours, then be late to pick up his D, that's his to own, in my view. This is where it really helps to detach and let him plough his own furrow. You may not agree with what he is doing, but he has fired you as his spouse just now, and these issues are his to manage. And if his ex is angry with him, so be it. You don't need to be angry, because it isn't your problem, right?

I hope this helps, and I do think it is a shame for D4 to have been disappointed by Dad not being reliable.

Take care, and maybe go off and do something until you feel calmer. You have regretted letting your anger get the better of you on other occasions recently, so best avoid that if you can.

Toots xx