Looking for advice and comfort

[Sotto]

Hi PT33, I'm so sorry it's a tough day. We have all been there, and I understand how awful it feels. From your post above - this is why one step at a time and one day at a time are so important just now. It is so hard to look ahead at the seemingly overwhelming future. But here's the thing - you just need to get through today. And you can think about tomorrow when it comes and get through that too.

In my early days, I managed to think a few days ahead only. Any more than that felt like too much. I couldn't think about next month, only this week. When you start thinking ahead, just tell yourself - I don't need to worry about that right now and focus on today.

Believe in yourself and know that you have the capacity to get through this difficult time. There are so many people here on the forum at different stages who are testament to that. If you need some support, do go and have a talk with your doctor and consider IC if you haven't already done so.

In the early days, I did quite a lot of walking which helped. I also started reading self help books (including DB and DR) which gave me some hope and a 'plan' to work to. I didn't trust my own instincts at that point because the bottom had just dropped out of my world. It also helped me to meet up with good friends, and to get out and do little things. I also upcycled some furniture in my Dad's garage and found that therapeutic. Working with your hands can really help soothe mental distress I think. Also, meditation can be soothing, and many people mention the Headspace app on this forum. There is a free trial if you wanted to have a go. Baby steps forward and looking after yourself.

For now, try and keep the focus on yourself, on self care and surviving a tough time. Keep posting and letting us know how you are doing. We are all here for you.

Take care xx