V is for Vanilla 20

[Vanilla]

Morning V - I haven't posted lately on your thread....but I do follow along and am pleased to see what progress you are making. I can't believe that your WH had an online dating account all the way through your M. Like, he would marry, but still keep his options open and hope to pick up someone else??

I think he may have a void that he believes a continuous string of women may fill perhaps? It is a shame, because really he is perpetuating the void by not truly committing to anyone and having a fulfilling monogamous R. His loss I think...

So, August is the month you file. I just wanted to send my very best wishes, and wish you luck with this next stage. It is good that you have taken control - in this and many other areas of your life - and can look forward to better times once things are resolved.

Take care lovely V xx

Thanks Toots I keep up with your sitch too and I seem to follow you around the board agreeing!

My original date for LRT was March 2015 and for dark the end of May 2015. LRT never happened and there was a spell breaker on 2 May, a month early. I gave myself dark on my birthday 11 May, my freedom day. Since then it's been clearance, WH things out of the big House by end June and restructure business by end July and pay WH off, that cash gets transferred today, I set it up with the bank when I drew out some money from my pension pot. I met my deadlines and am determined to meet the next ones.

I could have been a WAW and if I had known in March 2014 about the dating site then I would have walked, I stayed and DB instead, and I do not regret one single day of it, not one, without that I would be locked in myself. This journey has done me great personal favour although the futile wish the outcome was different is a waste of headspace. This journey is for me, selfi centred of course. The faster WH is gone from my head the better.

As yet I don't know if WH actually posted on the site only that he had a presence there and he bragged about it to acquaintances. Duh! If I can prove this then my L says I can get an annulment which means my M was wiped clean and does not exist at all. As if it never happened there is precedent for it and I have witness statements to his pronouncements. It is no wonder that most of my friends have rallied.

Then WH can go whistle his sweet lies to another and legally it never happened this sham M.

Any further revelations to come about WH? Nothing would surprise me, it's sad for him that he has to be this way, so awful to have such a dark shadow on your soul. My love for WH isn't dead despite all but it's bitter sweet. Not my concern any longer there are better places to go and new things to learn, people to meet and joys to know.

Precious Toots, I want you to be happy and your life to be renewed.

V