I looked up up Gabs Posts and holy Mackerel...it's almost an identical in what we are going through and I'm sure many others as well.

Yes, this all seems like crazy advice, but I'm trusting that it would help develop a better me. Like I said, it hurts but I'm glad the changes are taking place because if i were drinking I don't now what I would be thinking and I may be pushing her farther away.

I tried to PM, but its disabled. Is it just a setting that I need to enable?

Too bad we can't have Group Support Conference calls for the us.

I say only because I can't find a support group in my area.