I can't show her that I respect her if she isn't around and she won't be able to see the changes because she isn't around.
By giving her the space she needs, you are respecting her. By treating your kids great and being a great dad, you are respecting her. By getting a job and paying your bills and such on time, you are respecting her.
If she is interested, she will notice your changes. You dont have to show them to her every day for her to see them. This is a SLOW process. So, dont try to rush it.
Originally Posted By: fdu
I really wish my wife was missing me and having second thoughts as I am thinking that she is over me and doesn't care. I don't understand how we were together for so long with kids and she just leaves and goes cold and uncaring. In the beginning of the breakup I would tell her your giving up on us and the family and she was saying she's not giving up, she's not giving in anymore. She needs to breathe and it hurts to much to love me. Personally I wouldn't throw away my family without trying together as a family. She says she was trying before and I didn't now she doesn't have anything else to give me and what she has left is for the kids. To me it sounds like she's being guided by her mom or individual therapist.
No matter what you think, you cant read her mind. You dont know what she is or isnt thinking. And even if you could, just because shes thinking something right now doesnt mean she will think the same way tomorrow, or next week, or next year. Every ounce of energy spent wondering and figuring on what shes thinking is energy that you could have spent better on yourself.
