I've spent the week in upstate New York with my in-laws. It's been a pretty good visit. They have never really altered their behavior towards me (they actually got a little warmer) after BD. I'm sure it helps that I basically expedite most of their contact with their grandkids. Every morning when I leave my bedroom, STBX's high school senior portraits smile at me from the hallway. He looks like such an optimistic teenager in all of them and completely lacking in guile. Sort of bittersweet to see.
We didn't really discuss him much, but my MIL was able to tell me that OW is not moving in with STBX at his new digs (or at least that is what he told her). She also made the comment that she thought "he was finally coming to his senses at least in regards to what is better for the kids". STBX was the one who escorted D7 out here earlier in the month and it sounds like he had a good visit with his parents. It seems positive to me that he has re-established that relationship (it was definitely strained for the first months after BD). It's a step out of that weird self imposed affair cocoon he has been hiding in.
Anyway- In other news...I've had a fantastic boss at work who has been great throughout the last year. Unfortunately she can't get along with her own boss, and she gave notice earlier in the month. Today was her last day. She texted me throughout the week. It sounds like I will walk into a hornet's nest on Monday - Definitely a reorganization is afoot and at a minimum I think things like my hours will be watched much more closely (I'm salaried and my previous boss let me work short days when I had the girls and longer days when STBX had them to make up for it). I've intermittently looked for a new job since BD, but always decided the quality of life of my current job was worth it. Now that quality has basically evaporated over night and while I don't think anything will happen immediately - the department does not feel terribly secure. So...I spent the last half of the vacation sharpening the resume and applying to a pretty broad spectrum of jobs. Not really loving this additional source of stress right now.......
