My story - W was with OW

[Shuley]

As far as I know, the A is not ongoing. But she told me 2X it was over and she would not go back to OW and than did. Also, I cannot believe a word she says and so I say "as far as I know". She works with the OW. So even though contact there is minimal, since there is some contact I cannot be comfortable that the A is over. At this point, if she did, I would just file for D. This OW is an alcoholic and has attempted suicide and been involuntarily committed to a mental ward in the past 6 months. So, in order to protect my son and myself I would do mt best to cut off the W if she chose to be with her.

My decision to not go on the vacation was to give myself and her both space. Also, to give her a glimpse of what life would be without my help. I was the one doing 80%-90% of maintaining the household in every way the past year so I though maybe if she struggled on her own, she might understand what I do for the family on a daily basis. I want her to wish I was there and get some alone time for myself.

I have not made the final decision, she is still waiting for it. Not sure what to do now?