Just my thoughts. When most of us LBS's get here its in this very desperate state where we're finally "woken up" to our mistakes in the M. All the mistakes we've ever made hit us in the face and we focus on them, and the faults of our S's are ignored or minimized in our heads. We are blinded by our own faults and trying to fix them thinking that will be the solution, since its the problem right now. Its only logical to think if our actions were the cause of the breakdown of the M, then the only way to save the M is by our actions also. Thus, doing nothing means the M is dead.

All the co-dependency and Mr. Nice guy issues many of us have also play into this mindset. Many times this is before we learn of an A and even if we do know about it we feel responsible at that time. Thinking we made the M so bad it pushed our S into the hands of another. It just takes time to accept the full reality of the situation and know this isn't just about us.

Last edited by Fogg; 07/31/15 10:24 PM.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be