Hi DBB, Just going to vent tonight. I have done well with no communication, not being there ect. Even when H droped off D yesterday I talked to her, acknowledged him..he kept asking question after question, gave short answers, I was pleasant, I went to work. I felt pretty good he looks like crap, sorry but true. Tonight he called about Ds eye glasses and asked for money to finish paying them off so he can pick them up. I tried to be short with my answers but nice let him know I didn't have the money just bought a refrig.because ours died and reminded him I lent him 240 for his vacation a month and a half ago. Then he did it made a rude remark about me not being financially responsible for my budget, I blew my mind I made a comment right back about paying rent for a house but living with OW 25 days out of a month, so where is his money going? Then I hung up, of course he called back yelling and screaming that he would file the D next week and he would see me when he dropped the D off next Thursday. Of course once he calmed down he basically took that threat back, I asked him not to use the D as a threat because I don't care and it's amazing the only time he brings up filing is when he gets angry at me, when I haven't done anything. I'm getting more angry instead of understanding everyday..I feel like he used the glasses to see if I still cared because I didn't give him the time of day yesterday so if he can get a reaction anyway he can then he still has a hold, I don't like that angry, manipulative feeling anymore than I like being sad and depressed. On top of all this D 15.5yrs has asked if she can D her Dad this was just before he called. I at least convinced her to write him a letter about how she feels if she can't talk to him and see were it goes from there, that was the only advice, I can't even explain his behavior anymore, I'm not going to try. Sorry bad night, always when I'm doing well.. blind sided again. There! I feel better (of course if I could run him over, I'd be much better) lol. I'm attempting to live by this quote "I'd rather forget and live happy then remember and live sad". It was working for me, until tonight...move on. Hope all is good with you DBB...as always thanks for listening. Take Care, have a nice weekend. stacie