Still Struggling with a plan!

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Hope,

Sorry you had such a bad day, and sorry about your doggie. It is soooo hard knowing when to say "when" with our little fur families, but your pet will let you know. I'm glad to hear you're feeling better today.

(((hugs)))


starsky

Thanks, Starsky. We have 3 dogs that are getting up there in age and I know it is only natural that they start to have some health problems. But it is still tough. Especially going away for 2+ weeks & worrying about how this one particular dog will fair while we are gone. I do hope she does ok while we are gone & we can continue watching her for signs that she is ready to go. I'd hate to not be here when the time comes and hate for a dog sitter to have to deal with that.

In the beginning I leased space in my Hs head. I fretted over where he was, what was he doing, what was he thinking, how did he feel, what did he mean, etc. Honey, that rental space was the most costly thing I've ever paid. I stayed in a constant state of confusion, disbelief, anger & sadness. I moved out of his head & back into mine. You get so wrapped up in his thoughts & feelings(what you THINK are his but really are just projections of what YOU think) that you aren't fully exploring & dealing with your own.

Yes... I can relate to that. I have definitely done a lot of that. I think I am doing better this week. I discovered that he did call the OW on Tuesday for a 2 min conversation & while it has bothered me, I've done an ok job at not letting it rule me. Who knows why they talked. It was not appropriate... he should not be talking to her at all (except work related & I hate that is even there)... but there will be a time and place to deal with that. I have also done better since Wednesday at just calming down and not worrying so much about what he is doing or if he is talking to her. It does still cross my mind, but I let it go. I do want to know what he is thinking... but I will just have to wait until he is ready to tell me.