In hindsight I Was not the best husband, in some regard
Can you go in to a little more detail on this? What are W's motivating factors for petitioning for D? What is your current living situation? Have you talked with a L?
Originally Posted By: Glove
Suspect a possible EA, but unsure if that is my own issue. Is it ok to ask?
What do you think W's response would be if she is? W's response if she isn't? Is there really anything to gain by asking?
Originally Posted By: Glove
Give me a next step. I understand self help (activities / exercise / be happy) but I believe if I do nothing the marriage ends!
Yes, a big part of this is GALing and limiting contact to W. Another piece is W most likely expects you to do x, y and z given the situation. If you instead do a, b and c, this changes the dynamic.
You wrote that DR is on the way. Once you get it, make it your guide to a playbook. Determine your path and work on it. Too many people come here looking for easy answers at the start. It takes work.
And you have to accept that there are no guarantees other than this shall pass. It may end with M being restored; it may end in D. The only thing you control is you, so become a better you out of this.
me: 45 W:45 M 20 years T 22 years S14, S13, S11, D9 BD 2/28/14 D papers served 3/3/14 I moved out 3/15/14 MC start 4/2/14 I moved in 6/2/14 D suit withdrawn 6/30/14
