I try to do things, but it is so hard. I am trying to time it so I do them when she is going to be home. But I get this pang of pain because I want to be there with her.
Ok .. that part ... nope. You GAL regardless of if she is home, away, walking nekkid through the donut shop ... what she does and does not do should never effect what you plan to do on any given day. Its called GAL ... not GAL#aslongasWishome
Originally Posted By: PT33
She will be gone tonight and I will probably just get dinner and hang out with my sisters. Usually we workout and get something to eat Sat morning and she leaves by 12 for the day. Sometimes she spends the night sometimes not. Usually Sunday was out day to do things together per what the couples therapist said awhile ago. But not sure if there is a point to that anymore. I think I just need to find something to do on Sunday. Its just hard because thats when we wud do cleaning errands etc
She fired you ... make an very concerted decision to do something that does not include her .. this is for you .. not for her. Do not tell her what/where/when you are going .. strap on the Nikes and JUST DO IT. Don't even be cold about it ... be happy with a bounce in your step ... be the fun girl .. just go GAL .... I would suggest something out of your comfort zone ... heck one time I went to a block party, I knew NO ONE but I went anyways ... guess what .. had a blast.
Originally Posted By: PT33
Caliguy how did you do it? It looks like your happened over a long period of time.
Ugh ... did you just call me old? Yeah, my BD was Sep13 ... yup .. almost 2 years ago. I fumbled my way around for about 10 months before I found this place and it was another 3-4 before I seen any movement.
Thing is PT, its new and strange .. DBing is a 180 from what we typically have felt and did. If we did it right none of us would be here right? Right now ... focus on you .. control you ... let her be her, love her enough to give her that gift. I look back and that 2 years of 'time' I was given was truly a gift, I wish I had not wasted so much living in my W's head and worried about what I was doing and how it impacted her ... when I started living for me .. I felt alive.
