Yesterday was an emotional day. I picked up d18 and we went to the movie 'Inside Out'. This animated flick should come with a warning for guys that it causes extreme feelings of emotion. The movie starts with a family moving from Minnesota to San Francisco. The 14 year old daughter is unhappy and decides (b/c of her emotions) to run away from her family back to Minnesota. Here I am watching this with my daughter who is moving away from our family in Minnesota to Boston at the end of the month, and as the movie ended we were both weeping.
I returned d18 to W's place, to pick up s13 for the weekend. W intercepted me and wanted to talk. W talked with me for 20 minutes to explain problems she is having with 4 of her 7 sisters.
I have a history with her sisters, I have a good R with 2 of them. And I know the history of W and her dealings with her sisters. So I am the only one W has in her life that can really understand what W is going thru.
4 of W's sisters are making serious accusations that W is doing improper things. As an example each sister spends 1 day with their father taking care of him. Monday was W's day, and sister4 broke into father's place searched W's car and purse (found nothing) and just started yelling / accusing W (who is the youngest of the children). Accusing emails were sent by the "Gang of 4" sisters. And W is fed up.
I listened to W giving her my full attention, she was crying, we hugged 3 times during her 20 minute emotional talk. It was all about her, I supported her, spoke only to validate her, and she got a lot of info out. She spoke about how this will forever break her R with her sisters, and she liked it when I suggested that "I can't even see what forgiveness with her accusing sisters would look like."
The last hug W clung to me. W: "no one but you knows all of what I am going thru." W is going away this weekend with d18 and one of W's female friends and her daughter. At the end, I felt good about how this interaction went. I am starting to act more as a friend for W right now, and that seems ok.
