I can understand the temptation to date, it's another one of your efforts to make things better quickly. I know it's tempting, and dating truly can be very rewarding. That said, you are no longer in your 20's. The dating world you will find is quite different than what you might remember. For one thing, you have to have a thick skin. The norm these days on Match is for people to just not respond to you at all. You can write them a two page message and chances are you'll get nothing back. If you do engage with someone, they can disappear at any time for no reason. The point is, getting a good date is not as easy as falling off a turnip truck, and you have to be in a place where you can weather some rejection. Like anything else, you get back what you invest, and for the experience to be good you need to make a substantial investment of time and emotion.
You, my friend, are in no place to do that right now. The dating world can be wonderful but you really have to be "ready", and part of that readiness is pushing forward with DB, making your changes, processing your grief, and coming out the other side confident that Gabs has Gabs figured out, that your relationship skills are as sharp as they can be, and that you are a partner that anyone would be lucky to have. When you have that attitude, you'll be good with dating because you'll know you're a prize to be won.
Dating and dating sites are not an appropriate path for you right now. Focus on Gabs.
It's very, very, very, very hard and we all know that. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, but I'm better for it. Dig deep my friend, dig deep.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
