Last night, my D was up late in her bed and started complaining. When I went in, she said her hand was hurting her. Old me would have gotten upset that she was playing in her bed and not sleeping. New me sat down and made up some silly ways to fix it before settling on rubbing her back.
My W is long moved out. She will never know of this interaction. But that doesn't make me any less caring. doesn't change the quality of the relationship between my daughter and me.
The changes are for ME. If my wife is interested, she come back to find a more caring partner.
