Divorce Busting My Wayward Wife

[HurtJef]

Journaling

WW called me around 11 last night. She explained that she was having issues with SD15 and wanted to know how I felt.

SD15 has been spending alot of time everyday with her boyfriend and her boyfriend's family. They are always with his mom. At least we have tried to make sure that is the case.

Last Night, my Sd15 asked my W if she could stay over his house. My W told her absolutely not! Then my SD told her that she already has before. (This was news to us!) Evidently, While Sd was staying over her friends house one night, her and her friend got into an argument and SD called her boyfriend's mom who went and picked her up and took her over their house.

We never knew about this at all.

So my W is starting to wonder, and rightfully so, what kind of mom this woman is. We have both talked to her on numorous occasions and judged that she was responsible.

So my wife then goes on to tell me that SD told her that she wasn't gonna come home. My W told her to call her dad and ask me what I thought. (She knows the answer). So SD says, give me his number. W says, "what are you talking about?"
You have your dad, Jeff's number." Sd says..." He isn't my real dad and doesn't have any legal right to me." Ugh!

So I told W, She obviously is testing you. Put your foot down, set hard boundaries and stick with them. We can talk about what these boundaries will be so we can be consistent. I told W that IMO, she needed to show tough love and stop being so lenient. She got mad at me for this and said...."I don't know why I even called you". I said "You called me for my opinion, and thats what I gave you."

She calmed down and said that she stuck up for me to SD and told her that I am and will always be her Daddy and that she was lucky cuz there isn't a better one out there. She told her that I took care of her since she was a baby and That I continue to do so, when her "real dad" took off for another State.

That kinda made me feel better, she showed me alot of respect.

I said "thank you, if you need me to talk to her, let me know." And I told her I had to get going. We said our goodbyes.