Yes - very much. He identifies it as being unhappy with me. It's still mostly about me (though, not *all*, like it used to be). He is a counselor, so he knows how to twist it: he was unhappy before the OW was in the picture, etc, etc. And when you are one, making each other happy is part of that, etc.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
