I learned a great deal from posting on others threads. For newbies, it's often enough just to say. I know how you feel. Or I can see you having a bad day today. In the early days here it a great relief when simple posts appear and acknowledge you exist and that you are in pain.
Or just simply Hugs or Peace today or thank you for posting on my thread or even you got a new job congrats or how did your xyz go?
Eventually a newbie will be here and it will resonate with you so you have wise words. If you would like to look at RD or Bobs posts you will see what I mean about beautiful supportive posts.
Give it a go, I think it would be a 180 for you. Add qualifiers to your words such as I think or just my 2c worth or unsure or Wonka is your best guide. Wonka is always a best guide. You can even say 'there is a detachment thread.' Or point to a resource. Others decisions are theirs to make and if you are incomplete usually someone will chip in or present an alternative. It can be about the gift on insight but often it's the gift of support.
You are always welcome to say Hi on my thread. There are times I want a presence here but not to post on my thread so I don't but others know I am about and all is well. I am not silent.
You will also find that you build a 'tribe' those who have posted to you are interested in you and your sitch already and some are here for the long term others the short. It's a little like school those who arrive at the same period develop with you, older kids help you a long. Suddenly before you know you are the third grader.
For me Edz, Jim, Toots RD were in my class. RD and Dawn were the big kids and the wonderful Greengrass and Sunny and Maybell were the very big kids. So it is.
But posting to others, (occasional foot in mouth and accidentally sex change of posters) has grown me as a person plus much of my thoughts are developed off board and that too adds to my toolkit.
WhyUs you have a great deal to offer to pay it forward.
I am smiling because you smiled.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 07/31/1510:28 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
