I texted him today and simply said : Not sure where the time info came from. I didn't give them a time.
I left it at that and boy did I hear it later. A slew of texts accusing me of trying to wedge a gap between our boys and their dad. He was so mad.
I prayed for wisdom on how to handle these texts.
I had to reply because I really want him to know that i don't tell the boys anything negative about their dad. I don't try to alienate their dad. I always encourage (sometimes force) them to go even when they have cried to me that they didn't want to go.
Then he said he didn't want to see them until our mediation sets out the visitation schedule. Mediation isn't until Aug 26?!?!!?
M: So you don't want to see them this weekend?
H: VGE, i explained myself already. You have made this situation impossible. I am still a parent and have rights as their father and I love them dearly. Right now, there is a lack of respect on their part because of stuff you have purposely put into their heads...it has become more apparent & obvious wht you are trying to do each visit. So until I get legal clarification on my rights with my son's on mediation Aug 26.
M: I have always encouraged the boys to go on their visits with you. I hope you can reach out to their counselor. The boys would like to have you in their next session so you can hear from them how they feel.
H: I already planned on talking to their counselor as well as the school district counselors. I'm not going back & forth with u about this but I wil say that last night DS16 had already walked out to the car & then DS9 said they had to be hm by 9p. we were watching a movie & I thought this was strange when he said that but u confirmed this w/u text about picking up DS18 at 9p & telling me to take the boys hm.
M: I simply thought u were bringing them hm around that time or thought y'all wouldve picked up DS18 to take them to eat wherever & I'm glad you will be talking to their counselor.
H: I haven't once all summer taken them hm at 9. Nor have I picked up DS18 since he's been going to band practice on my days w/him. We don't eat at 9p. And that doesn't explain why the boys said specifically they had to BE HOME at 9 & walked out on everyone watching tv. I have to be at work 4am & will see you in mediation. I pray that we can all get along & put this behind us very soon. The children all need to see two parents put aside their differences & try to do what is best for them. Despite our failed marriage.
M; I agree. I know you and I want the best for our boys. They love both of us despite the divorce. They're wanting both of us on their side.
DS16 said he offered to show my H all my texts and even opened his ipod & phone to show him all my texts which just show my DS16 saying - "we're on our way" & my response "yay. thk u. luv u."
So I don't know what is up with my H. I truly hope he does call the counselor. I hope he doesn't take his anger out on our children. I also hope the counselor can explain how they feel and he won't think that I am in any way alienating our boys from him. As I've mentioned that I have never put a time constraint on his time with them. It just became later and later & I didn't say anything except once I asked what time would they be hm cuz they had Vacation Bible school the next day at 8a and it was already 11:30p. And I suggested that he pick up DS18 at 9p since he hadn't seen him in over a wk since DS18 had been practicing and on a retreat.
Okay- what do y'all think about what he said? What about my responses?
I pray for peace. I pray for strength, courage, wisdom and truth.
