Newcomer's sad story

[HurtJef]

Gabs,

Imo.....putting up a dating profile to "show" your wife anything is the wrong approach. You will not show her that you are moving on that way.

One of two things will happen.

1. You will give her a reason to justify her actions.
2. You will make her jealous which will push her away further.

Neither scenario is what you are looking for.

It sounds like you want her to be Jealous. Never a good thing for an LBS.

How is this making you a man only a fool would leave?

Believe me....I have experienced this.
My WW told me that I needed to give up on her and find someone else.
A week later I friended an ex girlfriend in facebook and my wife went berzerk!!!!

She told me that she knew I didnt really love her and that she didnt know how to be with me anymore......all because I pressed the "accept button" for a friend request. Up until then she was struggling with her detatchment from me. It all changed after that.

Do what you want, of course. But be warned. It wont work in getting to your goal.



Also.....letting her go doesn't mean finding another partner. It means detatching and letting her find her way. Its about letting her see what life is like without you while you become the best man you can be. Not starting up a possible affair yourself. You are still married right?

Also....you are still doing things in hopes of getting a reaction from your wife. That is not DBing. I understand that she is not in the marriage anymore, but if you are truly trying to save the marriage, you are taking the wrong path.

Besides....i would think you want to improve the mistakes you have made before you look for another relationship.

But this is just my opinion....i am still a newbie and make my own mistakes.
All I know is the vets here have seen many sitches come and go....they know what works.....and what dosent