Gabs,

Do you want to be right or be married?

I am not coming back here UNTIL you do the following:

-read CaliGuy's threads (MLC forum)
-post in other people's threads (start with saying "hi" or "I feel for ya...am here for support")

You need to get your head out of your own sitch and actively start posting in other people's threads. There's a wealth of information contained in them and you could learn "right" from "wrong" approaches when DBing.