sorry dude, that was a little harsh. I was asking an honest question. it seemed to me that I want to give her the impression that I'm letting go and that was one easy way to do it.
yes I want to stay married. yes.
you are saying to stop listening to her.. but i have also been told to listen to her when she says things like:
--it's hard to be around me when I'm sad --she needs space
and also, let her move out if she wants... don't stop her.
I've also heard something to the effect, if I love her so much I should give her what she she is asking for, which is to be released.
so it seemed to me that if she suggests I go out on a date, that would be in line with several of the ideas that have been presented to me here. I've also read in the book that I want to "change the dynamic" and going on a date would do just that. sorry if I "asked the wrong question" but it seemed like a logical one to me.
what if she hadn't suggested I do it? would that have changed your answer?
