I realize one of the main concepts here is to give the appearance that you are OK, and you are moving on.
Twice since she dropped the bomb, my wife has told me I should find another partner, now/soon. I think she says this because she wants to feel released.
So, what if I dated? What if I put up a page on a dating site, and went out once or twice with another woman. Wouldn't that show her that I am moving on, which is something I'm trying to accomplish? Would that change the dynamic a bit and possibly make her question her decision?
Of course that's the last thing I want to do. i want to stand and fight for her. I can't really imagine being with someone else. And I'm afraid that if I do it, it will show her that I really don't care about being with her anymore, and I don't want to convey that message, even though this book/forum seem to be indicating that's exactly what I need to do.
She has told me to do it.
She even said she thought that when she dropped the bomb that I would take it well and be psyched to be with someone else. She said she was surprised by my reaction and how sad i've been and how much I've been trying to get her back, I guess because I didn't really show much love for her when we were together.
Regardless, would it be a bad idea to show her I'm moving on by going out on a date, or putting up a page on Match.com?
