Around 20 minutes after arriving at the zoo, I get the first of many TMs. Convo below:
WW: S15 and S10 aren't spending time with you either...R they? U see it however u wanna see it. I want my kids and now feel like u r trying to discourage them from coming over to me. And them plan a swimming trip during my scheduled time. No FYI even considered out of respect.
Me: The swimming trip was not so that the kids would not see u. Nobody had heard a word all day so by 6:30 I assumed u did not have plans. I wanted them to have something fun to do. I'm sorry. I should have let u know. From now on, I will confirm on your nights b4 making plans. I do want them to spend time with u. They need mom. If u want to see them tonight I'm sure they would love it.
WW: From what I can see you are making your life seem so much more appealing to the kids because you know I can't compete with your money or free time. WW: You want them to choose u so they will tell the judge they like it at dads house because he has all the toys and money. or maybe or maybe not...Maybe its a competition to u. So S8 is so afraid to stay the night because he's so worried dad will go do another fun thing...Worried he will miss out. WW: Why would they wanna come over to my no air conditioned house. No money to do anything. No fun toys here. I'm sure it's quite unappealing.
Me: I'm not trying to compete. I'm trying to build memories with my kids. I've got time now to do it. It does not mean I'm better or more fun. I'm still not mom. They love u and love time with u, no matter what u guys do.
WW: Then your front is "I want u to see the kids...They need u". I can't help it I have to work. S8 don't wanna stay because he would have to get up early to go back to u because u don't want OM to be there in the morning because I would be at work. U made that unappealing for him too. Keep the air going so they don't wanna come over to my hot house. WW: So in ur eyes if u don't give me any money my hands r tied. Instead of spending the time trying to have fun quality time with me, even though I try to hide it, they spend time with me stressed about everything and quiet and cranky cause I can't afford what u have or give. When they finally choose to spend time with me. WW: I see what you're doing.
That was the end of the ranting. I didn't reply to that last group of TMs. But then about 90 minutes goes by and she sends this. WW: But I am glad that the kids are enjoying themselves. I truly mean that. Please tell them that I said that and that I love them.
Me: I know u love them. They know it too. Having a good time. (I attached several pics of the kids having fun at the zoo)
That's the last I've heard from her today. Notice that even though I offered the chance to take kids tonight, she never took me up on it. And she could have easily had them last night and only lost an hour but she chose to throw a hissy fit instead. So plenty of WW drama and I'm not sure how I did, since it was all on the fly and totally unexpected. Did I do OK?
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.