Co dependency H Affairs O my Must DETATCH

[Zues126]

Agree with Sunny, keep on this road. Sunny is right...love is a choice, and it doesn't always make sense to make that choice.

One thing too- codependency doesn't always mean you need him directly. I've found a greater need is to depend on HIM NEEDING YOU. Somehow when he needs you your life has a purpose, a meaning. And the worse he is, the MORE SURE you are that he TRULY needs you. And that if you're forgiving, love him unconditionally, never leave, accept the abuse...that somehow even while he treats you like garbage you are fulfilled because ONLY YOU would have stuck by him...and that makes you feel special and important and needed.

BS. Not only don't you need him, you don't need him to need you either. And while I cherish M, you aren't breaking your vows from protecting yourself from someone that has broken theirs first and is destroying your life. You must keep taking care of yourself.

Again, on the right path. So here's another one to contemplate- if you KNEW WAH didn't need you in any way...do you still feel you have value? What more are you here to do besides be a loyal punching bag?