My heart goes out to you. Unfortunately, your situation is not unique for we've had LBHs finding out that their wives are having an A with OW.
Breathe.
First and foremost thing you MUST do is stop all R talk or expressing your love for W. Allow her to process her emotions. If you're in her space ALL the time filled with anxiety about her decisions, then she can't have some breathing space to look at the M because you're in her FACE constantly.
Back the f@ck off and follow Sandi's Rules to the letter. She's heard you and she isn't deaf.
Keep coming back here and post. Be sure to clear your browser of history each day. I cannot tell you how many times I've witnessed DBer's marriages implode immediately after their WASes discovers this site. We don't want this to happen to you.
