I have not been on DB in months but wanted to update everyone that my wife and I have agreed to divorce. After more than one year of dealing with my wife's affair and her continued lies and dishonesty, I need to move. She has continued to refuse to provide any transparency and finally just said she is unhappy and wants a divorce.
I am making my focus my kids and myself (I have been for a while). We are going to use a mediator to keep things amicable and will put the kids interests first.
I have lots of emotions right now. I am sad but also relieved. I know that God has a greater plan for me. I will be in a honest, loving, and passionate relationship, with or without my wife. Or as I know now, without my wife.
Thanks you to Starsky, Train and everyone who has been there for me for the past 12 months. I really do appreciate all of the kindness that you have shown me.
Thank you Shodan
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
Sho, I'm sorry to read this. What has been going on lately?
UpperCut Me: 28 W: 25 Married: 4 yrs Together: 7 yrs Dday: 9/14 (W ends affair & comes home) S: 12/14 (W restarted affair 1/15; moved near OM 2/15) No kids
Shodan, I'm sorry to hear that. Has your W continued to have contact with OM then? As you know, ultimately it's you who gets to decide whether you want to stand for your M or not & I can understand either way. You've been there for a while and it's tough!
Keep posting & letting us know how you are doing. It's always good to hear from a former poster, even if the news isn't what you wished for..
Take care xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I actually think she has moved on to someone else but who knows. I don't really care at this point. I know this is the right move for me but of course, I know my kids will not like this. But the past year has been so unfair to them...she is very moody, never tells anyone where she is, does very little with the family. My kids are noticing things and it has gotten to a point where we need to just cut the cord and get one with it.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
My sitch has gotten movie level comical at this point. I discovered that my wife is having a second affair. She has my EZpass in her car and I finally logged in to see where she has been...so many lies. Nights she was supposedly working late or out with friends in the city she actually had taken an exit 20 miles west of our town. Days she supposedly went for a run with a friend in the city and ran some errands she was out there as well. One night when she supposedly drank too much and stayed at her friends she actually was out there as well.
I showed her the records and per usual, she denied everything. No really explanation but that I did not know what I was taking about. She is a different person.
I lost my temper a bit, called her several four letter words and told her to leave us. go off, do whatever she wants, but leave our family. We/I deserve so much better.
my advice to anyone in my sitch....LISTEN TO STARSKY AND THE OTHERS....I should have stood up to my wife long ago. Instead, she has moved on to affair #2.
Me: 40, W: 40 M: 15, T: 18 D - 10, S - 7 D announcement 6/7/2014 A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W) Still living together and sharing same bed
