I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I think I can relate to your pain.
I just found out my wife of 14 years is actively cheating on me two months ago.
In the past two months I've had a few good days. Most of them recently. I'm not sure what your current fitness level is but I would really recommend running. On days that I run 4+ miles I feel strong and confident.
It's really important that you take care of yourself. Easier said than done I know. When I found out I stopped eating. I stopped exercising. I stopped sleeping. It made it worse.
Hit the gym man. You need those endorphins!
thanks. but part of the problem, I'm sure you can relate, is that I don't really want to feel better. wait...what?? Why would you not want to feel better?
I feel this way because of what is happening and I can't pretend it's not happening. i can't see ANYTHING besides what is happening with my wife. NOTHING. I don't care about anything else. If I'm doing something for that, I can do it. I can read the book, or talk on this forum, or work on my 180s. I just don't really want to do anything else. crying makes me feel better. praying makes me feel better. anything that gives me hope makes me feel better. exercising only makes me feel better if it is somehow tied to getting her back. I know I sound like a weak sick puppy. Maybe that's what I am. im sorry that you're feeling this way. But the only way to feel better is to DECIDE TO FEEL BETTER. It's hard. And it's slow. But see if you can go a second without thinking about it. Then 5 seconds. Then a minute. And so on. Yeah, sometimes you will have to pretend. BUT THATS OK.
You say you're working on 180s. How is what you're doing being a good father? How are you teaching your children how to deal with pain?
My advice honestly is to start having a positive attitude. Watch the TED talk by Shawn Achor. It's so good. And so helpful. There's another by Amy Cuddy that's really good too. You have so much to be grateful for and so much life to live. Don't let your W take that away too.
