Newbie needing support and advice

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Thank you Jedi, that does help. I realize he is eating cake. He wants to get divorced from me but still have us/son in his life as much as possible. It just isn't feasible with his work schedule, I mean he wasn't there 50% of the time when we lived in the same house and you want that now? I will continue to do what is best for me and S4.

another question - it has been eating at me that the majority of our friends and family do not know we are divorcing. Our 10 year anniversary is next Thursday. I do not want to be flooded with Facebook posts that say "happy anniversary". He deleted his FB account the day I found out he was TM the OW. I want to post a statement like "H and I are in the process of moving forward separately. Please respect our need for privacy and support as we transition through this process". One I think it will make things "real" for him since he hasn't told anyone yet. Have any of you done this? Is that going to hinder or help? I am just unsure but I don't want to keep living a lie either.