Would it make you feel better if I tell you that periodically I get extremely resentful that my income is wayyyyy less than that of my XH? That being said, let me tell you how it worked itself out. Sure, he can afford more and better stuff than I can. BUT I HAVE THE GIRLS. They are loyal and love both of us, but they see me as the go-to parent. I wouldn't take a bigger checking balance for that, so...
Also, my XH has been fabulous about child support and paying for things that he could legitimately say aren't his problem. And he's paying for our D21's school (private engineering university) and not asking me to help (which I do in smaller ways). That's a financial commitment she and I both appreciate, and it's his way of committing to her happiness.
Through the years I discovered that keeping score was holding me back from being the happy person I wanted to be. The day I dropped that game became the day that I was truly free.
Besides, I know that he is envious (not sure if I mean that word exactly) that D21 calls me during the week all the time. He understands it, but he wishes he got more than he does. She *does* text him and call occasionally, but I'm the mom. You can't put a price on that. And I don't take advantage of it either. I just know it is what it is.
I love the idea of a vision board (I've got one myself) and I just might have to make that bucket list as well. Make decisions that make that vision board come true. Yes, there will be setbacks. Yes, there will be a learning curve - to think differently. Daydream. Visualize. Imagine. Those are all empowering actions.
Hugs, Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
