Wife called from back East. Actually my s9 called with W driving. S9 was on speakerphone. We chatted about the trip and how much fun they had, swimming and visiting with family etc... I told him how glad I was that they had fun.
My W gets on the phone and asks what the plan is for tomorrow when they come back. I had originally said I would like to take them for a sleepover but I have to work on Friday.
So, she suggested How about dinner tomorrow instead? I said Sure that would work. I don't know if she means dinner with just the kids or with her too. Whatever I will make the best of it.
I know I have said this before but it's strange how much contact we have had while she has been back home. I don't know what to think so I won't think about it anymore.
No expectations, light and breezy with whatever happens.
Another item, I have heard nothing, from the lawyers. I am going to just let it lay. I figure if there was any development my L would contact me. So far, nothing.
I don't know if that is good or bad news. It just is. I will treat it that way and not worry about it.
Just a piece of paper anyway.
On the GAL front, I have a tennis date! I am terrible at tennis but just want to spend time with my new friend. Hubba-Hubba
She then texts to confirm the plans for tomorrow. Dinner does not include her. She then tells me she has an "appointment" at 10:30 which will probably go until 12:30. She will drop the kids off to my office after that.
So, in my mind, this means the reason she has been sending me all of the photos and texts is because the appointment is with her lawyer. She was trying to butter me up and then as soon as she gets back into town - Whammo!
In reality, her appointment could be anything and the texts and photos have nothing to do with it. It's funny how much our minds tell us a story and we instantly believe it. Mind reading is so dangerous and so easy to do.
Bottom line - it is out of my control. I will be happy to see my little munchkins. That is enough.
I played tennis with a friend who told me that I have to get back out there, get on the horse and start living again. She means start dating and having sex. I told her "I know you are trying to be helpful, but I am not ready for that. I have to heal at my own pace." My focus is on my kids, me and my job.
I agree - touch and go for the photos texts. I will keep on my path - there is really nothing else I can do anyway.
I have been following your updates. You are so stronge and I so admire that quality in you. Thank you for taking time to post on my threads. I know you post on so many others too. Congrats on the job front!!!
I continue but it's lonely and frustrating. I will trust the process. I feel better emotionally because I don't cry every day and can go to work and even GAL and my PMA is relatively strong or at least I act the part.
However I am realistic about my situation and honestly it feels grim.
I will do my best and will stay true to my morals and beliefs. I pray daily for my w and myself and our family.
I seem to be obsessing about what is going on with the lawyer situation. It is driving me batty not knowing anything.
1. I call my L to see what is happening 2. I don't call and let him call me when there is a development
Of course I won't ask my W what is going on. She is suing me and I am not lifting a finger to help anything. I don't bring it up, don't mention it, act as is when I am around her. Just like the AP, I don't mention it, don't allude to it, nothing. That has gotten better as I have gotten a bit stronger, I used to mention it now I never do. One piece of intel I did get from a mutual friend is that the AP still lives with her W and family for financial reasons. Whatever.
Kids back in town for the weekend, dinner with them tonight and then I get them Friday Sat and Sunday. I am thrilled with that and am making plans for the YMCA and maybe a movie or a play date. We always have the trampoline.
I have to buy a grill for the back yard. My old one finally wore out. Now, if I could just get one in my car!
Anyways - always full of questions, never sure of what is happening, just trying to keep it moving forward.
GAL front - played a great round of tennis last night with a new friend. I have not played tennis is years! It was a really good work out. I will try to get my kids interested now that I know a good place to play.
My love and appreciation goes out to every member of this fabulous board. What would I do without you?
Of course I like to get the texts and photos and yet....
but I won't go to the dark side. Only positive stuff. You were right, I do focus on the negative. I don't know why that is but I have noticed that is one of my character traits. It is an annoyance.
