Relationships based on deception and little else, especially if both parties are married, rarely sustain. It is likely the R with OW will disentegrate, and you said, perhaps sooner than later. Will this lead the WAS back to the M? Honestly, we have no idea. Of course, try as we might and I am plaqued with it tonight, we have no idea what they are thinking? I cannot for the life of me understand why she left me? I was not the perfect husband, but I was a VERY good one, maybe too good. Who knows? Yes, seeing her is a double-edged sword, because tonight she has not called and I want to hear her voice, but I will not call because I would be disappointed at the outcome. Someone on another post asked, since they too are having non-negative interactions with WAS and each are being nicer, like me and W, does this mean the WAS thinks we are ok with their decisions? W and I have been nicer and more considerate to each other than since this began. What a mass of contradiction. I love her so and want her to be part of the family and at the same time I cannot imagine her coming back; I don't believe I could go through the pain again.
