She expects the kids to live with her fulltime and the things she said she would do if I fought her on it were despicable.
If you don't carry around a recording device with you at all times you interact with your wife, now might be a good time to start.
1. Catch her staying stuff like that will go far towards YOU prevailing in court
2. Protect yourself from potential false claims that way wards love to use to tilt the scales of justice in their favor. ESPECIALLY, if and when you choose to fight to protect your children, to the greatest extent possible, from prolonged exposure to an unrepentant wayward.
3. So you can document the truth should anyone ever need independent verification of your side of the story (like your kids years from now).
Your marriage isn't over. Plenty of people recover despite a divorce filing. In fact, your best strategy MIGHT BE taking the offensive and actually confronting her strongly legally...fighting for primary custody and guaranteeing yourself 50/50 custody in the process.
You can't roll over and give in. Your children need you to fight for them and protect them. Wayward divorced moms make terrible parents. 99/100 times the kids are better off...primarily....with the betrayed dad.
A divorce doesn't conclude the war for your marriage. There are now just going to be two battlefields. Let your lawyer handle the divorce battlefield. You don't discuss it with her and hide behind your attorney. Protect yourself with a recording device (maybe a wristwatch) so you don't get blindsided with a restraining order or something. Other than that...carrry on with your 180 and GAL'ing.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
