Newbie-H away with OW

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As far as living together, i'm still on the fence. We've been doing it since the BD which was 6 months ago. We get along great otherwise and he's been discreet about his phone calls with her so it's not in my face.

I'm confused. Earlier today, you were asking about how you could bring up the "speech" (per Starsky) about not being willing to live in an open M when I had told you not to bring up relationship talks. But this ^^^ sounds like you ARE willing to live in an open M, as long as your H carries out his A in your basement or where you can't see it.

Can you clarify?

Why are you concerned at all about delivering the "speech" about not being willing to live in an open M when, in fact, it appears as though you ARE willing to live in one?