I've read your postings and the first thing you must do is not respond to any more of your MIL's text messages unless it's something of interest to you, i.e., other than your issues w/your h right now. Your h is a grown man and if he needs to advise you of something, HE should do it, not his mother. He's acting like a 6 year old and needs his mother to tell the big, bad woman to leave him alone. Gosh, I need to shake that woman until her eyeballs roll out on the floor because she may be the reason he's having a crisis right now.
About your child, don't expect him to the be father of the year. When they are in crisis, many of them tend to ignore their children or have very little to do w/them. It's normal behavior. It's nothing to worry about because at some point, he will ask about her and possibly speak to her.
I would only contact him if it's an emergency or child related, nothing more. As for his mother...nip the communications and the next time you do happen to hear from her, tell her that her son, who is your husband, should be contacting you and that he doesn't need someone to relay messages to you. This mother is bad news and nothing you say or do will change her view of things right now because her little baby boy has told so many lies to vilify you to justify why he left. BTW, they all do that too.
Live your life as best as you can. Keep the focus on you and your child and be sure your accounts are taken care of. If you have joint accounts, set up a new one, if you have joint credit card accounts, get his name off of them or have your name removed. Why? Because he's likely to spend to his heart's content.
I'm very sorry this is happening to you, however, I'm glad you found this forum. There are many people here in all stages of the MLC twister. Come here to ask questions, vent or just to read and post. There is always someone here.
I wish someone would shake her. This whole situation just frustrates me.
I honestly don't know if this is MLC or a WAS. I really can't figure it out. He is still constantly pursuing women of all ages. Supposedly he is looking for a woman that will treat him and his daughter good. Yet a few days ago, he was not looking for anything and didn't want to move too fast. I think his mom is trying to encourage him to have a relationship with anyone.
I already set me up a new checking account so he can't take what money I earn and live us with nothing.
He did tell my son on facebook that he would get them one weekend when they get in the apartment. I am not going to deny him seeing them but I don't want them going up there just yet.
