Hey all I have a question. I have been trying to stop doing nice things for her (doing laundry, doing all the cleaning, laying out meds, cooking, etc) these are things that I did help with before but I should have helped out with more. My coach said it was ok, but I have read on here and from some of my friends that I shouldn't be doing those things anymore. For example she is out of body wash and has had to come ask me to use mine, my first thought is to stop and get some for her. Thoughts?
PT Just caught up on your sitch ... sorry you are here.
I have seen here n there that a coach's advice may conflict with the typical responses on the board, maybe your coach picked up on something that you shared and have not done so here.
But yeah .. my initial reaction was "Why? she fired you from being her W right?"
Detaching is tricky .. even more so in the same house, that roomate approach is a good one but you did confess you wear your feelings on your sleeve so its going to be pretty tricky for you. I cringed you gave up the MBR, she is having the A not you .. you should have booted her out .. but what is done is done right? My advice ... get so darn busy you just do not have time to do her laundry or all the cleaning ... seems to me she has it made with you taking care of her at home while she gets her rocks off with OW/OM (can not recall if you listed a gender)
Good on you for doing your thing and competing in the Spartan race (You stud you) ... but go back and revisit that ... see how she pursued you when you were GALing?? So .. do more of that stuff right?
Curious here ... if you could put down your stats/sitch on your siggy, I am wondering about the age thing ... and also her reaction to her friends death being a bit more intense this year ... not that there is a MLC in full effect but maybe she is chasing the "what could have beens" due to that a little.
