Had a long convo with my 1st Sgt today. Said he spoke to the OM leadership and had a good conversation with him. A no contact order with him and my wife are in place.
That said, everytime I see his car parked outside of his office I get the urge to bash his windows in.
I can only say this about the OM. He is NOTHING other than a PROP in her play. If it wasn't him it would be someone else or some other reason. Let go of your anger towards him - that is on YOU.
Your issues are with your wife and yourself. Control the 50% that is your part - YOU!