Again, this isn't to get a reaction out of him. That's trying to control him. And you can't control anyone but yourself.
I *will* add this: A lot of times, based on what I've seen, a cheater will amp-up their detachment in proportion to the amount of pressure they feel from the LBS. So if you don't pressure him, chances are he might back-off a little on being so defiant and reactive. You getting out of the house some is one way to take pressure off of him WHILE giving you something to do to keep your mind off things.
Maybe he will like you "moving on with your life." (Odds are that he will at first and as long as he's in the fog of an A.) But what are your alternatives, Nt? I only see one: NOT moving on with your life and waiting around at home, smothering him, staying in his face, waiting for him to "pick you." And I hope we would both agree that that's not going to move your relationship ANYWHERE good. And even worse, it's not going to put YOU in a good place. We can only take so much rejection. And the more available you are to him right now, the more he's going to reject you. He might throw you bones. But he's saving the meat for OW.
He doesn't have a reason to change that dynamic now. Wanna know why? Because he has you BOTH.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
