Still Struggling with a plan!

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Good job just listening and not getting all spun out when you discovered the phone is locked .. thats progress .. baby steps.

Thanks, Cali. I still feel anxious about it when I think about it. This morning we were talking at the table & he took a good long time to make eye contact (& he wasn't preoccupied with reading anything ... he was just looking at everything except me) & we were talking about every day stuff. All these little red flags. I know I should not pay attention to them but it's hard to stop. But I am keeping myself from saying anything so that is really where the impact is, I think. If only I could get my mind as in control. I guess I just keep thinking of what an overwhelming obstacle we will have to undergo if he does not ever see that his contact w/ OW is a huge problem. So thinking of tackling that makes my stomach drop. It is going to be hard enough to fix our marital issues w/o her in the wings... it will be incredibly difficult if not impossible to fix it w/ her in the background, even if she is just offering "friendship". Ugh.