Bwriter, I know I need to be patient, but what I'm finding difficult is the emotional turmoil I seem to be in all the time. Shortly after H left I was offered a fantastic job at twice the salary I was making, needless to say this upset H because stressing finances was the reason for leaving..I also purchased a new car....life's great but I'm so miserable. I would like to go to work, enjoy my new job and day with out this hell creeping into every thought. How do you do that, any tricks to getting this out of your everyday thoughts? Thanks, stacie