Please forgive me in advance for the "tough love" but H is not on track for any Guiness World Record. They all act weird and this is textbook. H only said that because you are out of town and it would logically be his opportunity to spread you a few crumbs and keep his options open.
Heather he is not doing anything for you or your daughters. He is not capable and he is not doing anything to become capable.
Right now you are your own worst enemy. You are trying so hard not to move forward. If there is no money then get a divorce like yesterday. The expense of attorney fees are eating up everything. Move on sweetie - the rest of your life is waiting!
If he ever really shows up with a job and some real introspection then deal with it then. You are hurting your girls by holding on to this hot mess. You have to let go or you will be lost for years. Your words are not your actions and it is time to align these things for the good of all the people you love.
Sorry for the soapbox but I care so much for you and your girls. You can be the hero in your story. I put my faith in you.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
