Breathe .... and I will try to tell you .. please listen. Ever see someone who is drowning in quicksand, the more they struggle the faster they sink? This my friend is you right now ... all THAT ^^^^^ ... you are pursuing ... DO NOT DO THIS ... and for Heavens sake you can write that letter but don't you dare give it to her nor let her read it .. write it and burn it.
I am trying to give you a rope and pull you out ... you can grab on to the rope ... or ... you can do as others have .. not listen to the advice and be in far worse shape here in a few months. Your choice my friend.
Lets look at what your wife is currently looking at. Remember ... she does not need you to point this stuff out ... she just had the fantasy of a new house (this goes with the new life she has been plotting in her head for some time) Well ... chink in the fantasy #1 ... house was in rough shape. Chink #2 ... that car she loves will have to go. Chink #3 $$$ will not be like they were ... see the trend here, just let these little glimpses of reality sink in for her, allow her to see them .. all this time YOU need to work on YOU. By you pursing and putting pressure on this ... she will become focused on escaping, however if she is not feeling trapped then the urgency to escape is less, gives you time to start doing what you need to do... what we all have subscribed to here .. GAL, 180, PMA, detach.
Gabs no one can force you to do it this way .. if you do not want the help that's cool, however ... remember you came here.. .WHY>? To save your M? ... or to tell us we are all wrong in believing in this system ... the same one that I happened to use and actually saved my M. I am here to tell you ... that last post .. if you do go that route, its a mistake. Regardless I and the people here will help you because we have been there, we know the pain ... we have already walked miles of the journey you are about to embark on.
