B, I agree that he is probably trying to hide his emotions and I know he knows he needs to end it with the OW because he said that on Friday. I guess what I have a hard time with is how a person I know still loves me goes from knowing what he needs to do one minute, backpedals 10 hours later, is intimate with me the next day and today acts like we shared nothing in the last three days. After reading the book I have seen the things that didn't work, as of now I'm trying to live for myself but its hard. I see him more when he has the kids and that weekend is just about over so it's anybody's guess when I'll see or hear from him until next Friday...it seems so long. I do appreciate you writing and reading my post, talking about it helps. Thanks S