LBS trying to get it right

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I realise I have to GAL AND MOVE ON

this has been the advice that has been given for a long time

And I need to accept that things are over I do not want to move to my parents house I feel this will be a backwards step

I do not think my changes will be enough for her but then I am making the changes for me so we will see what time brings

My W wanted to go for a walk today so I knew we would possibly end up talking she she said that she could see that I had been upset erlier and did not want me to keep getting upset as this is hurting her.

she said she could see that I was making an effort to be arround for the children more but felt that I was still not doing enough with the baby she also said she noticed that I have been doing more with the housework but she also said I was still not doing enough.

She then went on to say that she had been so unhappy in our marriage over many years that she will never be coming back to me she wanted to make this as clear as possible so I stop hurting myself ....I really did not realise just how unhappy she had been it must have been terrible living with me for her to feel like this.

She then said if we had not had the children then she would have left me a long time ago

So now I have to decide what happens next

Do we cohabit live together in a loveless relationship indefinitely for the children neither of us want to be 3.5 day parents I know if we sell and move into smaller houses the financial implications will be huge .....she feels she will be able to get a 3 day live in nanny job paying arround £200 per day so she feels that if she works on the days that I have the kids then she will not struggle so much I think that theese jobs are few and far between but we will see.

She said she hopes that I meet someone else someone that can give me the love that I want she says that she is not looking for another man and that I have put her right off that idea.

I do not want to be away from my children so I am really not sure what will happen now

Thank you for your support but I believe that my W has firmly made up her mind about this and I do know her.... she rarely if ever changes it once it is made up.

Thank you

Gary

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