WAS or what (2)

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Thanks Z for thinking of me and posting before you head off.

As for the text a more accurate term was cohabitation and not house sharing as I posted. I was the one who see us as glorified roommates.

I don't know how to change her perception. ..... without breaking rules and pursuing. I could go on for a long while here but would involve a lit of mind reading and focus on stuff I can't control.

I don't know if that is all I am to her. Sometimes I am sure she wants mire other times less. Hard to read.

She has stated a few times recently in different ways about doing some stuff that it is better as two. At these times she seems to want to go in the same direction at the same pace.... together. I am talking about doing and organising mostly but it starts there. Last week I said we need to do xyz and she had just a doing it literally minutes earlier. I joked that as usual she was one step ahead. I meant it as a type of cheer leading. I added that i'm catching up and she answered something like WE should be try to go together and not have one chasing/following the other .
I could mind read this negatively or positively. She could be criticising me doing my own thing without waiting for her or for nor being on same page as me. Could be she genuinely wants us to be "together". Could even be a test to see if I start pursuing. I am not going to mind read, but my feeling is this is a good sign. That being said she rarely knows what she wants to do, so planning stuff together is at times not easy. I try to plan together but won't waste a weekend waiting to decide together. I get busy, though available (mostly). When this happens she sometimes hovers in the vicinity doing odd stuff or asks if I need/want help. I am trying differentvaporoaches to working together on stuff but have not worked it out yet. Maybe it has to come from W. I also validate and agree whenever she comments about stuff like working together.

Anyway I am in a better place (today. At least for now!) I have reread my threads and I thank you Z 1 for your frequent replies and 2 for having the patience to tell me over and over the same advice. Rereading your posts that really struck me. Thanks. I hope for me that I am better listening to my W!! I think so but I am mindful all the same.

Have a good gaming week