I'm at my wits end! Five months ago my husband left..mid-life crisis, deppression. I welcomed him during the holidays we had good times. in Jan. he said he didn't think he could be happy here w/ me anymore (never came right out and said he wanted a divorce)but that was the general consensus. I accepted it although I was and still am devestaed after twenty years. A week later he disclosed to me the other women in his life, once again emotional break down, but I attempted to accept and push through. A weel later we spent a week together discussing all the issues pertaining to the ow and their relationship, we were also intimate at this period. After that week he shut me out again, four weeks later he confesses one morning he can't see his life w/out me, he has tried not to love me but he does even the little annoying things about me he misses, he knows he needs to leave the ow but feels bad. That evening he wants to talk and has gone back to being confused, he is emotionally connected to the ow and doesn't know what to do. The next morning were intimate again. My head is ready to explode, I'm not sure if I'm coming or going. Last night I bought the book divorce remedy and am almost finished with it. I'm due to have dinner with my husband tonight, with the promise we will not discuss the divorce or the ow, just have a good night out. To anybody that can help me figure out what to do next we haven't lived together since October, he really had nothing to do with me until four weeks ago and now we have had intimate realations, he is cheating on the ow...I have hope but not much, everytime I put a step forward to go on with my life, I go backwords........What next, were do I go what do I do? I have asked him to get the ball rolling on the divorce by April 1st because I can't live like this any longer, should I continue with the demand? Help?????
