Because she will not see the nice things you are doing or saying. Everything that you do for her will be seen as a weak, it will all go unnoticed. She is in the "too little too late" mentality right now. She will as see them as an attempt to manipulate her.
I know the "rules" are rigid but they do work. Like I said my H doesn't verbalize he notices the changes, but his interactions with me change.
Go see your doctor. Get on anti depressants if you need them. They do help clear your head, help you to stay calm and focused, and help you on your path.
Me 44 H 46 3 DD 22, 18, 15 1 DS 2.5 M 10/1992 BD1 2/2014 BD 2 7/19/2014 Moved in with OW 7/20/2014
