How long does it take for me to change I know I have been changing with what I have been doing arround the house and the things that I hqve been doing for the kidsbut I know that right now she does not believe my changes I inow I need time
you've been married 17 years. You've been here less than a month. I don't think your sample size is large enough to suggest permanent change to your wife. Especially if you've been down this road before.
I do not know if moving home is the answer I just want to give her space and stop my pain I do not know if moving home will be the answer how does moving home stop your pain? The only way to stop the pain is to feel better about yourself. Get yourself a life. Make changes you can be proud of. You'll see that the pain is still there, but it's more of a dull ache than sharp pangs.
I know I somehow have to move on why does moving on feel like giving up giving her space how does that not equate to her going out and dating and moving on without me who's telling you to move on? Nobody is saying to go out and start dating or anything like that. You still want this relationship, right? But you are being told that you have to live your life for YOU. You can't live through the lens of married Ghost anymore.
