Newbie-H away with OW

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Another fear I have regarding the LRT is that it may be more of the same.

Everybody who lands here - and I'm not exaggerating - says this. very. same. thing. I said it, too.

That's FEAR talking. And that's all it is.

The first thing you have to drop is fear.

Let me say this: If your H had just moved away from you, emotionally, over the years and you guys were reduced to glorified roommates, then being more attentive, more affectionate, more validating, etc. would be a great course of action to try to save your M. But when your H is in an A? It's simply not the same deck of cards. Think of the message it would send to him if you are more attentive and affectionate and validating when your HUSBAND is outright telling you he is intimate with another woman!

Yuck!

Sooooooo unattractive.